What is the best way for you to use your energy? How should you make important decisions? It turns out, it might be different for each person.
Dale and I are big fans of learning about things outside of our industry and what we do day to day. You never know how these lines of curiosity will end up improving your skills or help with making connections.
Recently I’ve been learning about something called Human Design. Human Design (or HD for short) is a way to understand how you’re uniquely wired. I’ve found it very helpful with picking what projects to focus on and the best way for me to get work done.
In this episode I take a look at Dale’s HD chart and we find his type and inner authority.
Through trial and error Dale is doing a pretty good job already of living his design, but once we reach the way he makes decisions, we find a few things he can work on.
I hope you’ll enjoy this very different (yet still Kyle and Dale style) episode of the Dale & Kyle Show.
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Dale Sidebottom: Hello everybody. And welcome back to the Dale and Kyle podcast. My name is Dale Sidebottom. I’m joined by my good friend and cohost
Kyle Wood: Kyle Wood.
Dale Sidebottom: How are you? Great man. Now tonight, very excited. We’re talking about a human design chart. Now this is a little bit different and I know previously that all is that other tests that we did, was it the way we did the Myers Briggs?
Myers-Briggs. That’s a common one. I’m sure people have heard of this. Now. I have not heard of a human design chart. Um, and I know that, um, a few weeks ago you asked for my date of birth and the time I was born, so we could check this out. So today you’re going to go through my design chart. Now I’ve got the list is I’ve got no idea.
What’s going to come. I’m really excited. Like this is exciting. Um, that, yeah, just seeing back in, I think these. They always give you something to take away and they always give you something to think about or ponder, or it might hit a light bulb of why I do certain things. So, um, yeah, if you want to hear this and hear more about human designs, what we’re going to the chart.
We’re going to do that today. So, Kyle, how are you first? And then can you explain what the human design chart?
Kyle Wood: Awesome. Uh, yes. And I think you, you nailed it spot on with. Personality assessments or things like that. It’s always like take, you know, take what resonates with it. It’s not like I have to completely change my life or it’s wrong or anything like that.
It’s like, just take what resonates and what, you know, one little thing that’s going to like be helpful in your day-to-day life. And that’s one of the things that since coming across human design is really, um, jumped out at me is that it’s very practical. It’s like you can take the stuff and apply it very easily.
Um, but yeah, uh, it’s, it’s totally like, we need to put a crunchy pants on today. Like it’s, uh, it’s a it’s out there and this has been an interesting experiment in me and kind of like letting go of like maybe the rational part of my brain and just like following something that interests me, which has been human design, I’ve been reading about and learning about it in my spare time.
I found it very useful for myself. So yeah, I thought it’d be interesting today. I enjoy looking at other people’s chats as well and seeing what they do. Uh, the human design itself has a background. It draws from a feed of. Uh, let’s call them mystical sciences just to be like, so it’s like, like astrology is like a, the Chinese eating, um, this, the cabal that, oh, Kabbalah I’m the I’m going to pronounce it.
Right. Um, also to fix that, uh, Uh, yeah. And then like, like some quantum science stuff sort of thrown in there as well to kind of explain why it is that when we get, when we’re born, you know, because you don’t do any kind of assessment or test with this to work out what type you are, you just literally your date of birth and your, um, and your time of birth.
And that sort of tells us how you like wired to be so thinking of it. I think maybe my. From previously when I used to engineering and stuff like that, I really like, like this and geek out on this as well, because it’s this, this sort of very, uh, yeah, you can’t see the chat right now, but it’s literally, it looks like it looks like a sick tree.
That’s like nine centers. And then they’re like connected up by lines.
Dale Sidebottom: Yeah. Before we go on, like I wouldn’t, I never do these tests and I. Nip, like people can always say, oh, you’re this personality type with, particularly at the Myers-Briggs or other things. They’re like, oh, this is your type of person. I’m like, ah, but I find it intriguing.
So, um, if you’re like me that, like, I don’t really care what I’m like. I’m like who I am. But every time I do one of these through, I’ve done it with you and I’ve done other courses where they’ve made you do it. It’s always, it’s not something I’d do, but I always take something away from it. So like it’s not forced to do it, but that’s why I’m excited.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. Awesome. All right. So let’s, let’s jump in. So, uh, the, the main thing that each, each person has, we have two things we have, what’s called our type and what’s called our inner authority. So the inner authorities, like the way we should make decisions. So like I talked about for super practical and your type is kind of.
The best way for you to kind of like shop to life. I’m probably butchering that, but this is my, this is my understanding of it. So yeah, there’s four different types and you’ll fit into, you know, one of these types and your type Dale is called a manifesting generator and it’s taking the all, explain the manifesting, bitten the thing, why that comes in.
But the, the it’s actually a subtype of what’s called a generator, which sounds very, it sounds like what it is. Generators have. Source of energy, which they can hear the last on things that interest them. Um, and so when you’re living to your type, your, um, uh, it doesn’t have that on here anymore. Uh, but yeah, your, the feeling you’ll get is satisfaction.
And when you’re not living to your type, they call, like you’re not self when you’re being, you’re not self, uh, it’ll be frustration.
Dale Sidebottom: Yep. And I suppose when you think about that, I’ve found the pandemic quite hard because of sort of lost my purpose at a lot of different stages, because I haven’t been able to do what I love doing.
And that’s being around people in a room generating energy. Um, and that’s like you said, that I have felt lost. So yeah, that does make sense.
Kyle Wood: Yeah, so generators have, uh, uh, this energy source. And so I’m a top quarter projector. I don’t have it. I don’t have a reliable energy source. And that just that when I heard that and you know me like that just explained so much about wine, I can just be like all over the place.
And it was just really. Nice to hear that and be like, oh, that’s okay. That’s just, that’s just who I am and kind of embrace that. Um, whereas you do have that energy source. So like each day you wake up, you’ve got this energy inside of you and then it’s up to you to pick activities or people that you spend time with that really leave you feeling like satisfied and success.
Yep. And if you do that and try and use up all that energy so that when you get, go to bed that night you’ll just fall straight asleep. And for you like sleep issues around and manifesting generators is usually when they’re not using that energy up, but during the day they’re not doing enough or they’re not, um, they’re not focusing on these activities that leave them feeling satisfied and successful.
Dale Sidebottom: very true. Had nothing, uh, lock. A lot of people would probably have over drank during these pandemic. But I think I was using that because I’d get to the end of the day and I hadn’t, it felt like I hadn’t achieved anything. And, um, and that would be like, okay, well I’ll have a beer or I have a couple of beers and that would help me sleep.
Uh, I’ve noticed that’s a cop-out, I’ll be very vulnerable. Like that’s it, that’s a really lazy. Selfish thing to do, you know, like firstly for my body, for the people I’m around, like, you shouldn’t rely on alcohol and I was there for a few months. So, um, it makes sense because I was getting the end of the day and I’m like, what, what say to be proud of?
Do you know what I mean? Like, I haven’t done what I want to do. I haven’t been able to, and I was using sort of that as an excuse because oh the pandemic, I haven’t been able to do that, but yeah, that does make a lot of sense.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. You’ll also hear about generators, like yeah, cleaning the house at like 10 o’clock at night and stuff.
And we’ll talk about like their moms who were generators because they hadn’t used that energy up. Or like, I guess people who work in it as well. Like they, they call themselves night owls it’s probably because they haven’t used that energy during the day on activities that left them feeling satisfied and successful.
And then when they got to the nighttime, they did still have that energy to you. Um, whereas like a projective for me, I need to like, have a, be like sort of ramped down period before bed. Um, because it’s very easy for me to like, get caught up in other people and things. So I need to like time to disconnect from that.
Uh, Yeah. And, and I remember you talking even like a few, like going back quite a few episodes, we’re sort of talking about like how we set up our weeks. And you’re like, Monday is like my get things done day and you’ll pull like a massive day sometimes on Monday. And I would just feel like, oh, there’s no way I could do that.
But it’s like, yeah, that totally makes. Um, well, and
Dale Sidebottom: I think with that, like I’m looking at my to-do list today in the meetings. I’ve got another podcast and I’m jam packed, but I won’t do any other work for the rest of the week on like, I can get it all done today. Like, and that’s my thinking that if I set up the week, then it’s just minimal things that I have to focus on.
Um, and, and to be honest, if I get that done, I feel so good. And it sort of flows on for the rest of the week because I was able to achieve so much. Yeah. So the, like you said, that’s probably that satisfaction and that just rolls interest away. And it doesn’t make me feel bad for spending full days with my son or going and playing golf or doing anything like, because I’ve set that time on a Monday.
Kyle Wood: Yes, cause that’s an important part of your energy to make sure that you’ve got that, that full battery the next day. You have to fully depleted it the day before. So yeah. So if you’re just constantly depleting it’ll re-energize to play ranges, uh, go through that cycle. Um, so the manifesting generators, so your regular generators tend to be like, they kind of, so your strategy, I should mention a first as a generator is to respond.
So it’s not necessarily to initiate, so your strategy. Um, so that’s like sort of how you can show up in life as your type, as a manifesting generator. Uh it’s to respond to things that come your way. So it’s not always like someone giving you an invitation or something like that. It might be something you see on TV that sparks an idea, and then it’s like, you should then go.
And act on that, like right thing you shouldn’t, um, shouldn’t wait, because that’s part of what will give you that good energy as well, or like an email comes in from somewhere that excites you, that you, that you feel like a surge of energy. It’s like, act on that. Uh, but don’t be like sitting there all up in your head trying to think of ideas or, you know, like trying to create things out of nothing.
It’s all about responding to people. Um, which made me think the other day, when we were talking about your workshops and how you developed that. And it was very much like you were responding to what people were asking you for in developing your workshops in honing that in creating that. That felt good to you as well, doing that.
It did. When I was listening to you talk about that. I was like,
Dale Sidebottom: I think, I think that though, that, as you said that, um, we can design something we want, but people might not like it. And I know I mentioned that. Um, and so I find that intriguing and sort of. Like I like going into a thing and trying new things to see if it works and like it, that excites me because if it does work, I’m like, that is epic.
If it doesn’t then who cares, you know, you just don’t do it again and the way to do it. Whereas I know a lot of people that are really scared that if, and particularly people don’t want to take risks or try new things because they feel like they’re failed. Whereas I actually liked failing because it shows me what I can do, or it gives me a challenge.
How can I overcome that? Um, and I think that’s what you sort of.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. Yeah. And that obviously excites you. Yeah. Um, yeah, so normal generators, they can seem kind of slow because they, they get fixated on one thing and learning about that one thing and other people around them, I’d be like, come on. And there’s like other stuff happening, but a manifesting generator because I’m not going to do it, but you’re basically, you’re more easily able to.
Take the ideas you have and the inspiration you have and communicate it with the world. So it’s a much faster process for you and you will tend not to be focused just on one thing at a time, but you might have a few different things that are interesting you at once. But the caveat of that is that because you can see efficiency, there can be a tendency to like want to skip steps, steps.
Generators are very like methodical. They’ll do everything, but manifesting generators. I that’s just easier if I just jumped to this bit and do this bit. And so that can be the downside because you don’t do it properly in yet. I did have a bit of a chuckle when I was writing.
Dale Sidebottom: I’m enjoying that. I don’t like hearing it, but I know it’s true.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. So it’s just like, uh, it’s just patience, which we’ll talk about in a sec with your inner authority. Um, that’s sort of part of the thing there as well, but yeah. Then also embracing that, that you do have that ability to like move fast and see yeah. See shortcuts and things like that, that other people in like a positive way.
Um, yeah. So, yeah. Let’s talk about your inner authority. So this is, like I said, this is how you make decisions. So yours is your solar plexus, which, um, is, uh, sometimes called an emotional authority. Uh, and so what this does is emotions naturally come and go. So you’ll have a natural, so there’s almost like a, you think of like a sign.
How it goes up and down, up and down. So that’s sort of what your emotional centers doing all the time. So there’ll be a natural peaks and troughs to your emotions, um, and how that plays into making decisions. The best thing for you to do when you need to make a decision is to wait to wait till you’ve experienced a few of those peaks and troughs before, like, so, you know, sleeping on it even for a couple of nights before making a decision, which would give you more information rather than acting, you know, when you’re really excited at the top of one of those,
Dale Sidebottom: I sleep on it.
I just make the decision and do it. And that’s interesting. I don’t like sleeping on it. I’m like I needed it done. Okay. That’s say there’s things you can take out of these. That’s probably the one thing that, uh, you know, get the waves, like you said, the sign chart, it’s riding the wave, you know? Uh, very good.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. Yeah. And that’s exactly what I talk about. Like riding that wave. Yeah. So if you’re feeling like you’re, you’re at a low, low, or high high, that’s like, I won’t make a decision now and ask people to be like, Hey, can I get back to you tomorrow? Or something like that can be helpful for you to just like allow your self time.
To do that. Cause you might just be caught up in the emotion of the moment. Um, and then, you know, come to regret it later because you’ll be excited about, um, and you have, we’re not going to go into the sentence cause this will blow out to like three hours. But you, we mentioned we have like nine centers and there’s, there’s two, there’s a mind one.
And then above that is your head one. So your heads where you get all your ideas and inspiration.
Dale Sidebottom: And your mindset. Why is that? Why? When you’re in the shower, a lot of people get good ideas because of,
Kyle Wood: I bet someone’s correlated,
Dale Sidebottom: just thinking, you know what I mean? Like so many people have IDs in shower.
Kyle Wood: I think it’s just cause we’re nowadays is, cause we don’t have a device and I probably already dropped you. I was just
going to ask you. Um, your, your centers there are open, which means, um, your, your sort of absorbing of. The ideas and information that’s around you rather than the opposite, which is projecting where you’re like pushing your ideas and information out on to other people. So that could mean for you. And I was thinking of this for you, with your emotional center as well.
If you’re around someone who is. Is having a really good idea. And you guys like the uni excited about it and stuff like that, be easy to be like, oh, that’s a great idea. I’ll do that. And then later you’re like, why did I, it, you know, or you start doing that activity and it’s not, you’re filling those buckets of like, feels like a good energy use and then yeah.
Just like letting go of it. Uh, so, so that’s where the sleeping on. It can be helpful as well. Like we, especially when you’re around other people. So you can be like, is that actually my idea? Or was I just feeling inspired by someone else? Yep.
Dale Sidebottom: And I think that is a really good point. Whereas I just had so many people come to me for business idea or do something and I wouldn’t, I just go, yep.
Let’s do it. Let’s do it now. I don’t. So like I said, I’ll sit back and reflect easy scarring to be aligned with my vision, my goals, and what I want to do, be somebody wanting to use me, my platform and my energy. And what I’m finding now is that a lot of people. I want to partner with you. They want to partner with what you’ve got or the reach you can have.
And I find that really funny. Like at the start I was, I would have said yes to anyone because I was just excited to work with other people and the possibilities, but now I sort of, yeah, I do. I sit back and I think about it and um, yeah, probably 95% of the time. It’s not a good fit for what I want to achieve.
Kyle Wood: That’s really good boundary setting because you’ve got this energy center people, especially like me, I’m like open. Like, we’re going to be attracted to you in that way. Like, oh, this person’s got all his energy. Yeah. I w I don’t. Yeah. I want to, I want him to help me do this thing. Yeah. Yeah. It’s good to have boundaries around that and make sure you, yeah, you’re delegating.
So it sounds like you’ve worked out, um, a lot of that.
Dale Sidebottom: Probably through, as we said, by a lot of ventures that may not have worked or to the body energy. And you’re like, that’s for, am I doing this? You know, but that’s the only way you’re going to learn is by actually feeling those emotions and, you know, doing those things and reflecting.
And that wasn’t for me, that didn’t work. I don’t want to do that anymore. And now I don’t.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. That’s awesome. That’s awesome. So let’s talk about two more things before we wrap up. So first is so like, those are the, those are your main things. So for you, it’s like remembering to like sleep on it or like allow as much time as possible before you make a big decision.
Um, and then your other thing is like to respond. So looking for those cues, that’s noticing that urge, especially from like sort of your gut center, that’s like, oh, this is a good, this feels like a good. You know, use of my energy, you know, I wanna, I wanna pursue this. Uh, they’ll still come back. Cause it’s like that that say cruel, which is where your energy comes from a sort of like in your stomach.
Uh, you can also, it can also come out as sound sometimes. So you can be like, aha for like, I want to do something. Uh, so you can actually listen to the, to the sounds you’re making as well. When, when making decisions to. Uh, yes. So, so let’s talk about the, yeah, those are the main two things, and there’s another thing called your profile and there’s another thing called your incarnation cross.
So like the cross is kind of, because you’re born at a specific time, this is kind of like your, the ultimate life purpose and your profile is kind of how you will achieve. So I was, I was chuckling when I was reading this as well.
Dale Sidebottom: That’s not a good, solid line. I don’t sleep on
Kyle Wood: this. Well, you’d have to make any decisions.
Say your, um, your profile. You have, uh, the local. Uh, six, which is, is called the role model, which I feel like very much fits you, but they ha you have this really interesting sort of, there’s like three phases to your life. There’s, there’s the first phase, which is like to use the like 28 30. And this is like a very tumultuous time for you.
It’s a very, like, it’s a very trial and era more era time of your life when I saw this in your life. And just thinking of like, yeah, that podcast we did about your book, it’s like, wow. And then from that til 50, you’re kind of consolidating and it can be more of like a sort of. Yeah. So it’s more of a period of like thinking and sort of like taking all you had all these experiences sort of after you’re 30, all these mistakes were made.
You may have ended up feeling very, the sexual, where they it’s pessimistic about life and about how things work because nothing worked. And then, yeah, this is sort of the reflection time. And then once you hit 50, that’s like really when you like step into your stuff. So you’ve already accomplished a lot.
I feel like during this like thinking face, I’m very excited to see, you know, Your career, you know, 50 or beyond because it’s, it’s at site. So it’s only going to get better,
Dale Sidebottom: sort of what they’re saying, that, you know, you obviously have a lot of life lessons, and I think I was able to process mine and move on pretty quickly and adjust the personnel.
It was, um, yeah. They reckon when I’m 50, I’m going to hit another patch. Is
Kyle Wood: it like, Hey yeah, this is still your learning theories. So seeing even like the book, the workshops, you know, the Ted talk, all that stuff, still seeing this as like learning and processing what you’ve learned. Um, and yeah, then they’ll the, a little bit of this other, there’ll be another phase for you where you really start.
You’ll be even more recognized, um, for what you’ve learnt and waste being out of.
Dale Sidebottom: Well, that’s, that’s exciting, like at the end of the day that I just want to share the, not the most well, the mistakes, but then how I’ve overcome those. Because I think people have these things that they’re not proud of, but they don’t know where to go or they’re, they’re scared to share them or that they don’t want to be vulnerable.
They don’t want to look like they’ve made mistakes or whatever, and essentially. Uh, I’m happy to share mine. And I know that’s been one of the most rewarding things that people go. I read your book and I didn’t realize this about you. I didn’t realize that. Or, um, yeah, so I wanted people to know that it’s okay to share and hopefully the more people will share and get on with it and, and fix those issues.
Um, yeah, if I can have a small part in that, that would be awesome. So if that’s now at 36 or 50, whenever I’m happy to keep that.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. Yeah. I think keep, keep listening to that, especially with you. Yeah. You Australia curious punk, keep listening to, um, to where people are having those problems. Cause that’ll help you keep help, keep helping people, which we’ll get into like your sort of life’s purpose, which, which is crazy.
So your other part of your profile is called. Is that the number two? So that’s your hermit. That’s called the hermit and I have this one. And so that’s kind of the part of you that is happy to, um, to be alone and, you know, sort of be alone and do your work and tinker with things and take the experiences you’re having.
Um, and then yeah. Create products, workshops, things like that. Um, out of the, so that’s really, yeah. You’ve changed into this super well, I feel like, um, you don’t tend to get, uh, Caught up in the drama of life. You, you have a strength of keeping sort of the big picture. Um, so yeah, so that’s something you can help other people with this.
Dale Sidebottom: Well, it’s the Oregon. That particularly what we’re going through at the moment. I know we doing talking about the paint damage, but it’s bloody everywhere. So, and that’s one thing I think I’ve done really. Um, as I said, um, my partners, uh, mum and dad are over look out for my son, cause we’re both working at the moment and they go, oh, you seem really happy.
I said, I actually feel great. And the reason is like, I’m controlling what I can. And like the sun was out this morning. I was walking the dog in know. You can get caught up in so many different things. And I feel very fortunate that I’m not worried about things I can’t control now, whereas I know a lot other people are consumed by it,
Kyle Wood: mate.
Yeah. Yeah. And so, yeah. Keep going. Cause that’s your, yeah. That’s your power as the role model? Um, Yeah, they describe it as a noble self-sufficient optimistic and visionary quality to you, which I feel like it’s really good.
Uh, okay. So let’s talk about what you, what you’re here to do. Uh, so this one is. Like sometimes you’ll rate this. It doesn’t resonate and that’s because it just hasn’t happened yet. Um, but yeah, when I was reading yours, so you’ve got this thing called the, if the people who are falling over at home, the left angle, cross of healing, uh, and this is, this is the description and rate out of the book.
Okay. For the people who have this people focused on maintaining the joy and quality of life through the love of being alive in healthy body who have a special sensitivity to those struggling with, um, dis it says disease, but it’s like this ease, like people who are uneasy, um, they’re, uh, they are here to heal or be healed through.
And then in quotes medicine, And I, and so if you calculate, if you replace that with medicine, with PLI.
Dale Sidebottom: Yes. Well that, but for me, that that’s, what do I talk about? Like play medicine, like it does really help people, like when they’re in a really, if you’re in a good place, it helps you, if you’re in an not so good place, it helps so that they all realize.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. That was, um, that was bang on. So that’s, I guess reassuring is that. You’re doing what you meant to do. And I guess that even what is play for you could change, but yet it’s, um, it’s very cool that you’ve found your way through all of this. And, uh, I feel like you’re, you’re already doing a pretty good job of like living, living to your design.
Um, Just maybe the slate sleeping on decisions. That’d be fine. Well, what do you feel like you?
Dale Sidebottom: Yeah. Yeah. That’s one thing that, uh, yeah, I think what I’ve taken away is that I’ve slowly started doing this, so I don’t need in life to be so busy. And that’s been a real thing I’ve taken away from, you know, the last two years.
It is okay to not be flat out all the time doing it’s been busy. It’s not a badge of honor. And, um, I know I reflected particularly my book. I talk about that, but you know why ours I’d sort of changed from what I was doing then to now building a business. And as I said before, I realized you don’t need to be constantly hustling and working that, um, things do come to you and, uh, That’s what I’ve found, you know, that, uh, just enjoy life, look after yourself and the people around you.
And, um, things will come your way if you, and I find being kind and doing nice things for other people that once I’ve started doing more and more of that, more and more things come your way, it really does have that sort of magnet effect. Um, Yeah. So I do agree with that and I think I’m getting better at sleeping on things and not rushing into it, but it’s probably something, you know, it’s hit home that I can do it a little bit better or I can take a breath before talking or just little things like that.
You don’t need to be like I am.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. Yeah. I can see. Because you can do you have the capability to do a lot and especially if it’s like a project that, that you’re excited about or something, or even playing with Sonny, cause like that’s responding as well. You’re responding to him and the way he’s acting and that can be very fulfilling.
But yeah, I can see when, you know, sometimes it’s like, I’m busy and it’s good, but sometimes it’s busy and um, Hating. So it really it’s like, it’s the, what activities you’re doing that, uh, not so much the, yeah, the constant busy-ness
Dale Sidebottom: well, and I think that’s where, like, I don’t like really writing much like an STN.
It’s funny. Cause I released a book this year, but like, so suppose you feel as pressured to do blogs. Right. Emails to people like it and send them to my lists and things, but I just don’t do that anymore. Like, and it hasn’t affected anything and it’s got rid of things. I just don’t like doing, you know? So, um, I think that’s been a big shift that I’m not keeping myself accountable for things that I think are important, but they’re actually not, I’m really listening to.
What makes me happy and what I enjoy doing. Um, and if I want to do it, I do it. If I don’t, I don’t, you know, and I think that’s been a big lesson for me that, um, all these expectations of doing like a podcast weekly or all these things that I felt were. But, um, I think I had to experience that now, just stepping back, realizing that, wow, you don’t actually need to do these things are still coming or why are you still having an impact?
So, um, that’s, that’s been a really. Interesting experiment, I suppose, but also knowing now that yeah. Don’t need to do it, which is great. If you’re
Kyle Wood: good. Yeah. Take the pressure off a bit. Yeah. I think that’s been yet something human design for really helpful for me, as well as like giving me permission to like take the pressure off.
And on those days I don’t have much energy. Just like that’s all right, relax. And then the days I do have energy, go for it, get into it. And, um, yeah. That’s, that’s. Helpful am I? So my strategy is to wait for the invitation. So I have to wait cause people like invite me in my type is more like a, we kind of gods.
Um, so, but yeah, we, we’re also good at giving unsolicited advice. So was really key that people like invite us in and it’s, it’s, uh, it’s incredibly frustrating, but, uh, but yet maybe you can do little things like for my type, like, Hey, do you mind if. You know, share something with you I’ve noticed. And then, then they’re inviting me in kind of like a vampire across the threshold of someone’s house.
You know, it’s like, can you invite me in
Dale Sidebottom: part the bay to get the question,
Kyle Wood: but then it’s also waiting till people recognize, uh, like you would be that person. One of those people in my life, breaking off people who see. My, you know, way of seeing things and see the value in that. And then like regularly asking for my opinion and stuff like that.
And then going hard on those relationships rather than like trying to seek out. That with other people where it’s not that you won’t
Dale Sidebottom: get that. And I think that’s one thing all feel that at the start of two years ago, all was reaching out to everyone and touching base. And now I’m the one who put your friendship groups shrunk off-field because you, you know, We’ll get back to you or that they’ve got the same invested interest.
Um, and it’s the same with work, you know, like stop trying to please everyone or get everyone’s approval, get everyone on board because it’s not going to happen.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Uh, unless I think. I think manifest is, might be able to, but yeah, anyway, you’re yeah. And you’ve felt a lot of the, what they call defined centers, which does make you kind of magnetic.
So it’s just like trusting that, that, that innate part of you is going to join in the right people, which it sounds like that’s what’s happening at the moment with people. You said you’re getting offers coming out of the woodworks and speaking gigs and stuff. So,
Dale Sidebottom: yeah. It’s and it’s crazy. And normally. Uh, previous season, it might be.
Cause I put the work in previously. I’ve got a reputation now, but I was emailing everyone else, setting up small. I was doing contacting everyone now. I’m not doing anything. I’m literally, haven’t done a thing. Um, and I’ve got meetings all today. We’ve all gigs for next year and, and big contracts. I just won like lots of them.
So it’s just, and that’s what I’ve been sitting back. I’m like getting these emails that people like requesting, well, that’s a really big request and I’m like, I haven’t even spoke to this person. I didn’t even know. I don’t dunno. It’s crazy. What happens when you just allow things to take.
Kyle Wood: Yep. And yeah.
Focus on those activities that you do enjoy doing, because that’s what makes you magnetic as well. Like emailing people or writing blog posts. It’s like, no, that’s not, that’s not for you.
Dale Sidebottom: Yeah, fucking, I’ve got these emails and I’m like, can I book a time to ring you? Because. I get on better on a phone. I don’t want to change eight emails back and forth.
I’d rather get what you want. Talk about it, explain what I can do and sort it out, lock it in done. So then that also fixed me cause it saves my time and I don’t stress a bit. The grammar or punctuation in email that would be junk germane. So, um, yeah, I think that’s also things I’ve figured out better on the phone, uh, better at talking.
So why not use that to my strength? Whereas previously I’d just do emails. I’m like, I’m probably not getting work because they’re like, is that like a literate.
Oh, that’s good. Yeah. I liked that idea. And the one thing I’ve taken away is it Eddie’s okay to sleep on ideas and decisions, and it’s probably something I need to focus on more. So, uh, thank you for talking me through that today. And, uh, hopefully people got something out of that you might be able to resonate with something.
And I know Carl mentioned a little bit about, um, the way you operate and things. And you’d probably say that with like listening to us fire over the years, that you probably understand now a little bit more about us.
Kyle Wood: Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Uh, yeah. And if, if, I mean, you can just, there’s so many blog posts on this.
So if you are curious about it, just, just have a Google, you can look up your chart for free online, and then you can just Google parts of your chart and find yeah. There’s heaps of information out there. So, um,
Dale Sidebottom: Well, thanks for that. Thanks. Yeah. Always, always like rocking into things where I’ve got no idea what’s coming.
You don’t have any luck. I think it’s well, it’s exciting. You learn and you thinking, and I was taking it all in. I think that’s, uh, as I said, mate, I love starting Mondays. If one of these, and now I’ve got that to-do list. I’m going to crunch it. So, um, yeah. Thanks once again, mate.
Kyle Wood: You’re welcome. All right.
Chat to you next time.
Dale Sidebottom: Cheerio every one.
Kyle Wood created Bootcamp Ideas in 2010 when he was hunting around on the internet for workout ideas. He ran a successful bootcamp in Victoria, Australia and spends his spare time managing this site, adventuring (or lazying) with his wife and find new ways to make bootcamps even better.